Turning 30: November Edition

Things I’m Glad I Did Before I Turned 30

Most people look back upon their 20s with a little pink in their cheeks and exclamations of “I can’t believe I did that!” You won’t catch me doing that very often. My 20s were a decade of memories and times I wouldn’t change – even the bad ones. I’m a strong believer in “Everything happens for a reason” – even though that reason isn’t always revealed right away. I like silver linings. I like a happy ending.

So, let’s look back at my 20s and discuss what I’m glad I did before I turned 30.


I mean, come on. Vegas requires energy for long nights that turn into early mornings multiple times in a row. It makes me tired just remembering that trip. But, it gave me a closer relationship with my cuñada and her now hubby, as well as Señor. This was our first big trip together.


50oz. drinks with my cuñada



Serial Dating.
While I only had 2 serious boyfriends before Señor, I did date a few other guys along the way. Each one taught me a little bit more about myself and what I truly wanted in a man whom I would eventually want to settle down with.

Love & Laughter.

Love & Laughter.


Moving Across the Country, Just Because.
Summer 2007: Most of my friends were graduating college, but I had taken a year off so I still had at least one year until graduation. I decided to find a job anywhere but the Midwest for the summer, and ended up in Tallahassee, Florida. I enjoyed myself so much down there, that I decided to apply for entrance to Florida State University, was accepted, and attended for a semester. It was too damn hot in the winter and I missed my family, so I said “Peace Out”, packed up my Cavalier, grabbed my cat, and drove back to Sweet Home Chicago. I fondly call my time at FSU my “semester abroad”. It’s deep south – an hour from Alabama and 20 minutes from Southern Georgia. It don’t get more southern than that. (Yes, I did that on purpose.)

F-L-O-R-I-D-A S-T-A-T-E!
Florida State! Florida State! Florida State!


College Nicole.
There’s this mythical creature whom Señor and I fondly refer to as “College Nicole”. She was really cool & hip. She liked to participate in Thirsty Thursdays despite a Friday morning physics class. She partied ‘til 6am on the weekends. As President of her dorm, she helped her friends sneak a pony keg up the back entrance for an end of school year party. She would drink ‘til she was warm so she didn’t have to wear a coat to frat parties. Her proudest achievement during college was the weekend of two birthday parties and Tour de Franzia. There are so many more stories about this mythical creature; we would be here all day. Needless to say, College Nicole evolved into Responsible Nicole, and Responsible Nicole realizes she just doesn’t rebound as easily as she did during her run as College Nicole.

Tour de Franzia 2007.  Yes, that is a bag of wine.

Tour de Franzia 2007.
Yes, that is a bag of wine.


Made New Friends.
You won’t stay in touch with a lot of your high school friends. Facebook doesn’t count. If you can’t call them up on the phone without it being awkward, they’re not really your friend. The friends I made in college were people who didn’t know my entire history, people who took me as I was. They dressed up with me for theme parties and took me to see bands who would later invite us to their after parties in their hotel, then grab a cab with me at 6am. They are the ones who would later ask me to be in their wedding and share with me the good news of a baby on the way.

Danielle's wedding. November 2013.

Danielle’s wedding. November 2013.


Something Reckless.
I jumped out of a perfectly good airplane and IT. WAS. AWESOME. Later, I would learn that this adversely affected my life insurance policy. Luckily, I was still young enough to get a decent rate.

Skydiving. Summer 2009.

Skydiving. Summer 2009.


Finished College.
College requires a lot of time and effort. I’m too tired for all that right now, especially with my full-time job. Just the thought of pursuing my Master’s makes me tired.

Graduation Day! May 2011

Graduation Day! May 2011


Got Comfortable.
I’m very comfortable in my own skin. I own my quirks and force find people to see them as endearing. I also just don’t give a damn what most people think. I was so glad to find that comfort in my 20s – it’s so important for growth.




Life Changing Trip with the People Closest to You.
My BFFO, her hubby, Señor, and I went to California for a week. We met up in San Francisco and drove down the Pacific Coast Highway to LA to attend the 10 year vow renewal of a good friend. It forced us to be in close quarters for multiple days, to be budget conscious, and for the BFFO and I – to be spontaneous. It was the best trip of my life, and I’ll never regret who I spent it with.

Chinatown - San Francisco

Chinatown – San Francisco


Cleaning House.
Sometimes, you have to change your life in drastic ways. And sometimes, that means ending relationships you have come to realize are no longer fruitful, but hurtful. One day, I hope to reconcile with one of these people when we are both older, wiser, and able to accept fault.

Chuckin' Up the Deuces.

Chuckin’ Up the Deuces.



I had so much fun going through pictures to share here. It was so hard to pick only one picture for each mini-story. Lots of good times with great people. But I’m looking forward to more good times with great people, especially the ones here ❤  Bring it, 30s!

Orleatha & Chris' 10 Year Vow Renewal - California Road Trip. May 2013.

Orleatha & Chris’ 10 Year Vow Renewal
California Road Trip. May 2013.







RIP College Nicole.




English Friday: To Kill a Mockingbird

My favorite book I had to read as an assignment in high school was To Kill a Mockingbird. I loved Atticus and wanted him to be my father. So, without further ado, here is today’s English Friday meme, courtesy of Grammarly.com.


Taboo Topics: Politics & Religion

I’m one of those people who believes everyone has something good in them, even if you have to dig really deep. I also believe in treating others as I would like to be treated. This makes Señor tell me I’m too nice, and my family to have always believed I’m too naive. I like to bring out the good in people. I want their light to shine – not just for others to see and hopefully emulate, but for themselves. You just feel better when you’re happy.

The internet could do this, too, and many people, blogs, websites – they honestly try to make the world just a little bit brighter by highlighting the good things in the world. One of the best examples of this is Humans of New York (HONY). Brandon, the photographer, sets out to get people’s stories, and while some of them are sad, most are eye-opening and inspiring.
But then there are the sites in which I can only imagine miserable people sit behind the scenes writing stories and pushing “information” out to the masses. Unfortunately, this is the information that most people soak up and share among their social networks, not the good stuff.

Lately a lot of negative news and stories have been shared thanks to election season. Unfortunately, this season brings out mud slinging of the worst kind. Out of all the political ads I saw on TV, I would say there was only one positive ad for every three negative ads the candidate put out.

At least some of them were comedic. When Oberweis claimed Durbin singlehandedly broke Washington, I almost died of laughter. Seriously? Don’t worry, though. Durbin came back with a really clever ad, claiming you weren’t invited to Oberweis’ tea party – because Oberweis is a part of the GOP Tea Party. Get it? Good one, Durbin!

With the internet being so widely accessible to practically everyone in the US, the media has latched onto this better than any tick on Houdini ever has. (Those things are the worst). They are constantly putting out news stories, and most of them aren’t even worthy of being considered news. And usually every single story that is more than 4 paragraphs has at least one spelling error. It’s like the media outlets only care about getting the story out first – no matter what story it is – and are therefore sacrificing quality for quantity.

Gone are the days where journalists and reporters actually researched their stories and reported facts to the public. Every time I read something that is extremely slanted I go to factcheck.org. (This is a supreme example of what shoddy “references” are lurking on the internet nowadays.) When researching which candidates I should vote for this past election (yes, I actually researched instead of depending on the “news”) I had to actually use “unbiased” in my boolean string.

With political season also comes all the people voicing their (usually unwarranted) opinions. I usually excuse the people who don’t know what they’re talking about because they’re hopeless. They are the ones who state their opinion as fact without any actual facts to back it up, or use their emotions or “fairness” to argue a point. These are also the people who recycle phrases they hear other people say – again, without any research, so they’re most likely spewing incorrect information.

The people who truly disappoint me, however, are the “Christians” who use this time for their personal agenda, demonizing those who have different opinions. I recently read an article from a relatively famous speaker about monogamy. He was arguing against a professor who teaches monogamy is unnatural and unrealistic. I agreed with the piece he wrote, because he defended monogamy and said that yes, it is unnatural – because it is actually supernatural (read the whole thing here). So I started looking at his other work, other blog entries. Unfortunately, he’s a wolf in Christian clothing. He condemns those who do not 100% agree with the thoughts of the far right wing train of thought and I actually found his work to be lacking. During his anti-abortion rant, he actually said he doesn’t know why God decided to bestow such a painful thing as childbirth upon woman. Are you serious? This is in the FIRST book of the Bible.
His most disgusting post, however, was concerning the death of Robin Williams. He clearly does not understand depression, and I pray no one close to him ever experiences this terrible disease. I imagine he would sit with them and try to pray it away instead of believing in the totalitarian disease it truly is. (I bet he also believes you can “pray away the gay.”)
I digress – That guy really gets me worked up.

Christians are supposed to walk like Jesus. This means loving everyone and not judging them. Jesus hung out with prostitutes and liars and cheats. He encouraged his disciples to do the same. How else can you do your duty as a Christian and evangelize if you’re only hanging out with other Christians?
Loving everyone means just that – EVERYONE. Not everyone who has all the same opinions as you. Verbally attacking people because they support gay marriage or believe in pro-choice options for women would not be approved by Jesus. You cannot spew hate yet say you love Jesus all in one breath. This is precisely why people turn from the church – they cannot deal with the hypocrisy.

This is also why people stop voting. Every candidate turns out to be a hypocrite.

I don’t know if I can deal with any more election seasons having to hear about the “war on women” or the right to carry guns.
Can we fast forward to post-2016 presidential election, please?